Adoption is a journey and as an expert in adoption I will talk with you about what to expect, what to plan for, and the things you might not have yet thought about.
Some of the things you may want to consider before beginning the adoption process:
- Do you want to consult with someone before beginning your adoption journey?
- Do you want to adopt Domestically, Internationally, or from the foster care system?
- What are your expectations?
- What are your parenting and/or attachment styles?
- What are you absolutely not prepared for?
- Do you want to use an agency or attorney for your adoption?
- What is your entire adoption budget-from beginning to end, including travel, agency, and /or attorney fees etc?
- What are your feelings about prenatal exposure to alcohol, drugs, and smoking?
- What race of child you want to adopt?
- If you are planning to adopt trans-racially, it is imperative that you educate yourselves and your family about trans-racial adoption and the impact it will have on the child you adopt and your family. This is an extremely important area and one that you must prepare for prior to bringing a child into your home.
- What level of openness would you like to have with your child’s birth family?
- Are you prepared to adopt? Have you educated yourself, your friends, and your family about adoption?
If you are considering adopting a child of a race, ethnicity or culture that is different from your own, please go to: www.pactadopt.org and read their resources on trans-racial adoption and watch their video: ”Considering Trans-racial Adoption: 4 questions to ask yourself”. Also visit Angela Tucker’s website: www.theadoptedlife.com.
Please do your research prior to completing the application for in the words of Angela Tucker, ”I was keenly aware that I did not quite belong. Because to belong meant that I could find products for my coarse afro-textured hair at a local store, makeup would be available in my skin color and I wouldn’t be petted on a weekly basis by curious citizens who wondered what my hair felt like. To belong meant I’d need to be white.”
It is essential that you fully understand what it means to parent a child of a different race, ethnicity and/or culture before bringing that child into your home.
Your Adoptive Family is collaborating with PACT-an adoption alliance to provide required (WAC 388-147-1725) training webinars for all homestudy families.